Don’t Let Them Tell You Differently

By on February 1, 2015

Have you ever let others have a say in how happy you are?

Sometimes we care too much about what They say or do.

My daughter came home with some tough math homework this week

She was so frustrated that she couldn’t figure it out. She thought that there was something wrong with her — that she’s stupid.

Poor girl! When I dug deeper, I saw that the reason she’s so upset is because a friend told her that the homework was soooo easy. If you couldn’t finish the homework in five minutes, you’re stupid!

Isn’t that silly?

Her ability to finish math problems in a certain number of minutes does not gauge her intelligence, but she believed it because a friend said so.

What about us? How do we, as adults, allow outside influence to pull us down?

Well meaning friends and family are always giving us their opinion on our lives. Not just that, we have the media and institutions selling us what we’re supposed to have and do in order to be happy.

There is so much noise, sometimes it’s hard to know what we even want for ourselves. And so we begin to feel that we’re not ‘living up to’ what others think.

What if, really, you’re already where you’re supposed to be? What if you’re already perfect, right now, right here, in this very moment?

Today, take a moment to sit very still. When you notice any negative thoughts — like I’m not skinny enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not enough of this or that — just let those thoughts gently pass, and refocus your mind on the path of your breath.

Notice how in this very moment, you are perfect, you are breathing, alive, and all is well. Within you, you already have everything you need to be who you want to be.

Here’s to your freedom!

Stress Release Tip

Notice how you feel when something stressful happens. Someone says something to you, you take something a certain way, and you’re there – stressed and tense. In that moment of recognition, feel your feet on the ground, let your rage subside.

Mindful Moment

For a moment today, notice the pace of your thoughts. There’s a current pulling you ever forward, but it can be stopped. Instead of being mindlessly pulled into the next task, next destination or next thought, try to slow down (mindfulness of the breath helps), and catch yourself in motion.

Quote From Dana

“Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your own quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.”
– Ariana Grande

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About Dana Lin

As ZenLife’s Co-Founder and Chief of Operations, DANA LIN was once a cranky single mom and a recovered Type A who found a path to freedom. A former ministry leader, she has helped hundreds of families fight addiction, heal from abuse, recover from childhood trauma, and stride boldly down the road of recovery. Her fun and interactive workshops free you from past conditioning, unrealistic expectations, and the burden of stress in all areas of life. Participants leave with a vision of more joy and balance, boldly coming home to their self and stepping into the life of their choosing. Discover more about ZenLife...

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