No Time For Lovin’? That’s No Fun!

By on January 24, 2015

Sometimes it feels like there’s no time for intimacy – no time for love!

Make some time this week to get sexy… you won’t regret it, and your body will thank you (check out the stats below!).

Looking at the survey we (at ZenLife Services) sent out a couple months ago, many are struggling with too much to do with too little time.

When rushed and unable to sit still, one of the main areas that suffers are your relationships. Especially your intimate ones.

While juggling overtime, kids, errands, bills, and grocery shopping — all things that must get done — we often push aside ‘me time’ and time with significant others.

You can guess what happens over time when your romantic relationships aren’t nurtured, when you don’t make room for intimacy, right?

The same thing as when you ignore the signs of stress in your body — eventually there is break down. Relationships, pushed aside too often, weaken and begin to fall apart.

We’ve all heard the story of the executive who worked so hard towards “success” that she missed her children’s important events, wasn’t available for family time after work, and became a stranger to her husband and kids.

But the good news is that is doesn’t have to end that way.

Ask yourself some important questions today. When was the last time you spent some fun and playful quality time with your significant other?

When was the last time you indulged in a romantic date? When was the last time you were intimate?

As much as you should make time and space for ‘me time’, you should always make time and space for that special other someone as well. It’s good for your soul, good for your libido, and definitely good for your sanity.

Still not convinced?

Studies (by Dr. Stephanie Benson of Memorial Medical Center) report that people who are regularly intimate take fewer sick days from work and are at decreased risk for heart disease and depression, and have lower rates of stress.

There’s evidence that chronic pain that be reduced by sexual intimacy, releases oxytocin, the brain’s ‘feel good’ hormone.

Even cuddling, hugging, and showing physical affection in platonic relationships has proven benefits like increased happiness, leading to deeper bonding between two people.

It doesn’t take heroic effort to show your loved ones you care, but you do have to make it a point to be HERE.

Stress Release Tip

If you discovered that you’ve been neglecting your love life lately you send yourself on a guilt trip, feeling horrible about ignoring the one you love. It’s okay. Reach out to your significant other today and simply apologize. Whether you’ve been busy with work, health issues, or with children, have a candid conversation and decide together how you can remedy the situation. Tip: make sure your solution involves some romance and a little good old fashioned fun between the sheets. And if you’re single, ask someone out!

Mindful Moment

Today, notice how available you are to the people in your life. When you are talking with your spouse or a friend, are you truly available, listening openly? Or are you standing there, thinking about the next thing that you’re going to say? When we are open and receptive to those we spend time with, a connection is formed. We allow the person in front of us to express who they are, we accept them openly, we allow love to flow from us to them. Feel your connection to those you love, and see how it changes your interaction.

Quote From Dana

“The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”
– Bertrand Russell

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About Dana Lin

As ZenLife’s Co-Founder and Chief of Operations, DANA LIN was once a cranky single mom and a recovered Type A who found a path to freedom. A former ministry leader, she has helped hundreds of families fight addiction, heal from abuse, recover from childhood trauma, and stride boldly down the road of recovery. Her fun and interactive workshops free you from past conditioning, unrealistic expectations, and the burden of stress in all areas of life. Participants leave with a vision of more joy and balance, boldly coming home to their self and stepping into the life of their choosing. Discover more about ZenLife...

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